There's a whole radical psychology/sociology about the neurosis of family structure, and particularly the cultural imposition of romantic pair-bonding that won't work for many of those who seek it.
I don't like to necessarily demonize "pop culture" or even that phantom mainstream. I prefer not to argue that any accident of nurture, barring serious neglect or abuse and its multigenerational cycles, is "wrong".
I read a passage in Bolaño's 2666 today that I think is a parody of Marquez. The Mexican "family history" consists of a series of identically named women, all raped as teenagers. It's a kind of nasty brutal shortness, without patriarchy, that actually appears to me more of a utopia.
What it comes down to is a question of whether any society can be entirely autonomous, self-supporting individuals. Children always prevent it. And the bogey keeping the argument for traditional family structure going is the empoverished single mother. It may or may not be that government-organized social support is the only solution to this.